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A day in the Life of Dennis Jones

17 May

7am : I wake up in the morning pondering issues that society struggles with, the lines that devide us, and what makes me whole as an individual. I reflect on this for an hour at this time i eat or prepare a meal to eat or do chores.

8am : I sit in lotus position to further acknowledge the things i can’t change about the world and to change those things i must model them to inspire others to be the best them.

9am  : I shower and groom when needed while listening to jazz or classical in the morning. This hour I get ready for work…

10am : If i have time from the inspiring and relaxing meditative experience of showering to jazz music. I will play classical and jazz piano before work to let out some of my creative energy.

11am : I head to work. On the way to work I look out for the beauties in nature which is everything. I get an overall feeling of awe at this moment of my day

12pm : I get to work I say hello to all of my co workers and ki-ki with them about issues relevant to our lives and get lunch.

1pm : I have a Meeting

2pm : I go into drop in at lyric to socialize with my peers in the community to see there needs from groups and to talk about issues relevant to them.

3pm : The same as 2pm

4pm-7pm: This is training where all the queer educators get together and learn and discuss issues in the community and world. We also get trained on relevant skills that can transcend and be used in everyday life.

7pm : I take a deep breath and start reflecting on the day. Maybe get something to eat.

8pm : Arrive at home the first thing that I do is wash my hands. Than I shower and change into my pajamas at this time

9pm :I watch youtube videos and look at social media till i get tired and go to bed

Thats a day in my life…


jump inside your love….. with sequins

28 Mar

“We are persons of quality, I assure you, and women of fashion, and come to see and to be seen.”- Ben Johnson

yesterday, i went with lyric and larkin youth to see brittney spears, and her first performance she was dressed in a fierce sequiney one piece leotard. im starting to adore leotards, mainly because they make me look good when i put one on. i like it when i see specially made one with sequins and lights (brittney had a red lighted leotard for her third song).

i love big hair. i thing that the higher the hair, the seriously your tooken. i like wearing curly hair because i feel like people find me beautiful. its kind of wierd when i wear straight hair because then people feel like artificial for me  to straighten it. i like when the drag queens wear hairspray made wigs that touch ceilings, with sickening side swoops, and it goes down to your butt. its shows the emphasis on your drag. makeup is really important in drags and fashion. your eitha looking for a clear clean cut look or your doin sickening fierce drags with some powder…!

even though i struggle in heels, i do envy a woman who knows how to handle her heels. it comes natural to sway your hips and walk tall then dragging your feet or stumbling like your fresh out of a club in castro at 1 in the morning. i feel that if your walk is right then you can handle the high heels and stilletto. but, if your like me and you kant handle the heel, i choose wedgies and short but cute heels, not the heel your grandmother rocks.

Friendships In School

21 Mar

When i was in elementary school, friends were always hard to come up on. this really shifted my way of thinking at an early age because i always played by myself, and hand wondered if because im by myself if i was wierd or was i not important. i also hit puberty at an early age, so i always looked like i was older then i really was. i felt like a sourthumb graduating, bacuase i looked older and because i was the only tanned one walking the stage.


In middle school, i started to hang outside in my community, and this often led to me staying out late with the bad crew doing bad things. i was always taken advantage of and made to look like im the weak sauce of the group. i never went to school in 6th grade because i was in a gang and i often fought with people at school. i never really was accepted at this school, so i sat in the cafeteria and eat n hangout when i didnt have class. i once got into a fight with some girl because her boyfriend liked me and nobody helped me, or backed me up like my gangmates did. in the 7th grade i finally hung around people at school, and for a little bit there was no drama. then rumors started passing around and again i was the target for drama and violence. this girl one said “u have to pay me to speak to her”. i never understood why i felt accepted with these girls, but that year we started the posse, and she still never tuned up or sang with me. my grandmother died while i was in 7th grade, and i went crazy for a year about what im living for on this earth

in the 8th grade, i kicked it around mainly guys, because i decided that female friends were too much, and also because this girl who was trying to be my friend stabbed me in the back. i used to be in the “white washed” group, bacause the girl lived the valley girl dream. i felt accepted because one of the girls was from nigeria, but she had rejected her culture and me. so me and this one girl gotten kicked out of the group for drama the other minions started, and we had to finish by my homegurl fighting my other homegurl. it was crazy cause i was torn apart. they harrassed her, so i stayed neutral and remain good friends with all on them.  i had also hung around this boy because he was new to and people thought that he was acting “too black to be asian”.i started to go to the music class and gotten in to the groove of the kids there. i graduated with people screaming my name and more confidence about what i should be doing in life. i was living with my mother that year, and i hated her because she had no sese in friend unless she was using them for what she needs. i started to run away to my childhood friend who imma tell u about inna little. after running away, i decided that i was going to dedicate my life to gettin to knw as many people as i could

in high school, i didnt get many friends, but my list of enemies grew. i had boyfriends that i dont talk to anymore. my cousin and my childhood friend, helped me through the first 2 year of high school. my childhood friend was the only one in my gang who still talk to me. i knw her since i was 10, and she still holds me down. ever since i started to work at lyric i improved my communication skills, and now i have a network of people. a whole family of people from lyric and other non profits and from castro. im nw a castro kid and its fun. i feel accepted n comfortable around all these people because they keep it real and help me instead of abuse or harrass me as a friend. this is my spoof on friendship……


8 Mar

Musique, is a form of life and a form of expression. Musique is innovative, because of the way it can take a community by storm….. Musique is like a way to speak to dha community…..

Musique can also sell a story or a product or a dream….. Musique runs my life and keeps me balanced…

So now ask yourself, what had Musique done for you in your life…….? Be thoughtful and honest with yourself….

Maybe Musique connects to your soul n makes it happy, maybe it tells and writes the stories of your life, or maybe its the sweet sound that you like to hear when your playing it…… Everybodys reason for loving Musique is different from person to person….

Musiqe in the queer community bring pplsz together in many ways…. Yes there is Vouging involved, but its not only that. Some of the Musique i listen to that are from queer artist often show me a different world than im used to….. so the next question that i ask is what does Musique open your eyes too?

Its important for a man to know how to cook.

25 Feb

I cant not stress that enough. here are 10 reasons why…

1.Its romantic to cook for your special someone. It can set the night for passion and cuddling.

2. A man should be able to maintain himself. Alot of the time growing up in this heterostructured world your expected to do such to be able to. Your taught early to go get what you want and be adamant about it. How cooking fits in it well you must eat and drink TO LIVE.

3.Its incredibly joyful and can be your quiet time/relax time. The smell of food is so soothing!

4.Cooking with your special someone(s) is also an amazing time. building something together and enjoying it…. Sounds like something else…. Its also good to bond with people in general

5.If your in lost/stranded in a forest you should atleast know how to build a fire and snack on near by dear.

6.”I can cook” Is the ultimate pick up line. Add from scratch in there someone will get you a long way

7 .It shows intelligence if you can create complex dishes.

8.You will just be awesome!


10. A man should be able to do a lot on the stove.

Wow that was funny there some good facts going through along with suggestiveness and sarcasm. I feel it important for a man to know his way around the kitchen for fact no matter at what level. doesn’t make you less if you less if you can’t but it is like have resume writing skills.

Allyship to Trans

13 Feb

One of the many communities that I’m an ally to is the trans community. How I’m an ally is I respecting gender pronouns and respecting there names chosen. A majority of trans people prefer you not to use there birth names. I personally believe that people shouldn’t be called out of there name ever without consent. The other way I’m an ally is by respecting gender pronouns. If someone wants to be looked at as female, male, gender queer etc. I respect that because I feel its best to look at people for who they are and accept them for those reasons alone. The important thing is the heart of that person a person with a good heart should be a respected one. The important thing is to not be catty because its one of the things that don’t facilitate allyship. Because its not respectfully in most situations because it is used to put others down and not build them up. I conclude with this sage wisdom… “One is strong many are powerful!” – Dennis Jones I hope that inspires you to become an ally to many communities and give the support to strengthen and inspire positive social change in and outside of your own community.

The Queer Boy Community

3 Feb

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One of the communities that I’m a part of is the Queer boy community. The queer boy community is very diverse all shapes sizes skin colors and conditions. I feel that a lot of the time we as a community could be a bit harsh on our own diversity. For example there our instances where people could be hyper-masculine and take up a lot of space. When obviously there are men who identify with so many other things than just masculine. Personally I don’t consider myself masculine or feminine. There are spaces or instances where I would be forced to choose one. Some of those instances would be clubs, relationships, certain meet ups with friends even. Its really sad that sometime we can’t just be ourselves and exist in the world without being stereotyped or defined. However in this community there are many successful people who do what they are passionate about like Designers, Musicians, Visual artist, Poets, technicians, you name it there is probably a queer guy who does it. We have many talented and divers people in our community. Though there are pressures I remember to be me and do what I do best be me. Join me to stop the internal homophobia it starts with you and me modeling the change we want.

M.E.E.T (Men Educating and Empowering Together)

23 Jan

Hello, Everyone this is M.E.E.T’s first blog post, At M.E.E.T we go deep into issues in the community such as, Body image, Male Priveledge, Sex& health, Allyship,etc and many more. We also know how to have a good time which leads us to talk about the Drag show which is going to happen on 1/29/11 Yes thats right! January 29th  2011 DARLING! bring your dragz and come enjoy the show do you and take it to a 10, The Important thing is that this is not a competition its all for fun and community building lets Ki-ki and have some fun Hunties…  M.E.E.T is where it is at this month!

M.E.E.T is FREE and open to all male-identified folks and allies* 24 & under. Allies are any body committed to supporting their local queer boy community Fridays from 4-6pm